There are two things I despise -- 1)condescension and 2) sanctimonious behavior. I hate it when other people do it and I hate it more when I do. Unfortunately, I think that perhaps, on this thread, I've been a little of both, and I would like to apologize.

As Rosemary pointed out, we all come to our opinions and feelings by what we know, by what we have learned, how we've lived. For me, the "club scene" has never been a part of my life -- not when I was young, not now. I don't drink, I don't dance and I've been with my husband since we were seventeen (I'm now 47 -- you do the math!) -- so the idea of going to a club to meet someone has never been even a remote part of my existence (and, even if something happened, God forbid, to Mark, I still would not go. It's just not my nature).

I don't think that people who go to clubs are bad people or that the clubs themselves are inherently bad places. I think they, like anywhere else, can be -- and it all depends on where they are and the kind of people who frequent them. It's all an individual's choice -- and always an individual's choice as to how they comport themselves in public. With this, like with anything else, we have the freedom to make those choices but we also have to live up to the consequences, whatever they may be.

I think most of you know from coming here to this board that I have never been someone who deliberately tries to hurt anyone's feelings and I try very hard not to be judgmental. However, as a member of the human race, I fail miserably at times -- I try to make things right when I see I have made mistakes -- and if I hurt anyone's feelings with anything I've said, I'm sorry.

I just ask all of you -- as well as myself -- to remember the guidelines I've set up for the board -- which is mainly that I really don't care what you say here but I do care how you say it. There are very few topics that I consider to be taboo and I welcome everyone's opinions.

Now, as to whether Gerry Butler is immature, I don't know. My guess would be yes. But if he wants to go to clubs and hangout or whatever he's doing, then fine.

However, I don't have to like it.

Lynn